{"id":20,"date":"2016-06-20T20:00:54","date_gmt":"2016-06-20T20:00:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/liztomey.com\/blog\/?p=20"},"modified":"2025-07-31T17:48:27","modified_gmt":"2025-07-31T17:48:27","slug":"i-need-you-in-my-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/liztomey.com\/blog\/i-need-you-in-my-life\/","title":{"rendered":"I Need You In My Life!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Update:<\/strong> This was written WAAAY<\/strong><\/em> back in 2016, but I’ve left it here on the blog and I point people to it because it’s me in the “raw”<\/em> talking to YOU<\/strong> (my Team Tomey people<\/em>) and it’s got a great lesson in it…<\/p>\n

So for the past 6 months I’ve been in a pretty bad life funk… No worries things are getting better<\/strong>, but it’s been a rough 6 months. Honestly it’s been a rough 3 years. I’m sure a lot of you can relate to having “bad years<\/em>“. Of course there’s lots of good in them too, but as a whole the last 6 months have been REALLY rough!<\/p>\n

I’ve had a problem with knowing what direction to go in. Some HUGE mental blocks kept me from being the best me I could possibly be.<\/p>\n

My “mojo<\/em>” has just been gone!<\/p>\n

I made my life long dream come true to move to Florida, but that also meant that…<\/p>\n

1.<\/strong> I had to leave my best friend of 13 years behind… She’s always been a HUGE source of “mojo<\/em>” and being this far away from her was like leaving half of me behind.<\/p>\n

2.<\/strong> I had to leave my hometown… For 32 years (I moved to Chattanooga when I was 5<\/em>) I’ve called Chattanooga, TN home and it’s an amazing city that has all of my best memories in it. And 95% of my special spots!<\/p>\n

Those two things had a much bigger impact on me than I ever imagined. I lost part of me in making one of my lifelong dreams come true.<\/p>\n

That happens when you go after bigger and better things!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Now add in a horrible heartbreak and a catastrophic event I can’t even talk about publicly and you have the recipe for a massive “funk<\/em>“.<\/p>\n

As I said though things are getting better…<\/strong><\/p>\n

Why?<\/em><\/p>\n

Because I’m learning to get my “mojo<\/em>” from other people and things.<\/p>\n

I lost my mom 3 years ago and she was literally my backbone. She was my BIGGEST source of “mojo<\/em>“.<\/p>\n

Then I divorced one of the most amazing men in this world. Yes he has his faults, BUT when I met him at 23 I was still such a child. The man basically raised me and turned me into an adult. Well as much of an adult as he could. He was another HUGE<\/strong> source of “mojo<\/em>“.<\/p>\n

In that divorce I also lost 4 step-children that I helped raised for almost 13 years. Yep…<\/em> There goes some more “mojo<\/em>“.<\/p>\n

My son decided that he wanted to live with his father full time instead of me. Talk about heart breaking. He’s got an amazing dad and that’s the only reason I allowed it, but it was devastating. He doesn’t know that because I’m trying to teach him to follow his dreams and what makes him happy. But… There went another HUGE<\/strong> source of my “mojo<\/em>“.<\/p>\n

Now throw in the move and leaving my best friend and hometown behind you can kind of see I’ve been sucked dry.<\/p>\n

Literally everything I’ve known just slipped through my fingers. A lot of it is my fault, but at the end of the day I’ve suffered huge losses.<\/p>\n

Add in the last 6 months of craziness and my “mojo well<\/em>” has run dry.<\/p>\n

I’ve always gotten my “mojo<\/em>” from people and special places. I’ve been warned about not getting it from people, but it’s in my makeup to do so. Maybe it’s a character fault, but it works for me when I’m getting it from people so I’m accepting the fact that I have to get it from them.<\/p>\n

With so few people in my life now I didn’t know what to do… So I started thinking about who else was in my life when I’ve had the MOST “mojo<\/em>” going. All the people I’ve listed above were there, but guess who else was.<\/p>\n

YOU!<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

At my best I’ve always given half of myself to my customers, fans, and followers…<\/p>\n

That reminder has catapulted me back to where my head needs to be. It’s you guys who give me my “mojo<\/em>“.<\/p>\n

How?<\/em><\/p>\n

By buying my stuff? Of course, but that’s like .005% of it. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

The ways I get “mojo” from you guys is when…<\/strong><\/p>\n

You comment on my Facebook stuff\/ blog…<\/p>\n

You give me feedback on the information I create for you…<\/p>\n

You consume what I teach you and use it to be successful…<\/p>\n

You are actively go after your dreams…<\/p>\n

You consider me a source of YOUR “mojo<\/em>“…<\/p>\n

Even when you are giving me “constructive criticism<\/em>“…<\/p>\n

I could go on and on here, but today I wanted to open up a little to you and let you know how much I appreciate you for all the “mojo<\/em>“.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Keep doing what you’re doing… Keep interacting with me… Keep letting me know what you think… Keep letting me know how I can help you…<\/p>\n

Just keep sending all of that “mojo<\/em>” so I can continue being the best I can be for you!<\/p>\n

Alright that’s enough “sappy<\/em>” stuff for one day. And definitely enough “mojo<\/em>” talk. \ud83d\ude42 Time to get back into action mode with all of this “mojo<\/em>” I’m getting. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

I hope you’ve found something in this post you can identify with and I hope if you’re lacking in the “mojo<\/em>” department that you find your new source of it too!<\/p>\n

Liz<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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