So for the past 6 months I’ve been in a pretty bad life funk… No worries things are getting better, but it’s been a rough 6 months. Honestly it’s been a rough 3 years. I’m sure a lot of you can relate to having “bad years“. Of course there’s lots of good in them too, but as a whole the last 6 months have been REALLY rough!
I’ve had a problem with knowing what direction to go in. Some HUGE mental blocks kept me from being the best me I could possibly be.
My “mojo” has just been gone!
I made my life long dream come true to move to Florida, but that also meant that…
1. I had to leave my best friend of 13 years behind… She’s always been a HUGE source of “mojo” and being this far away from her was like leaving half of me behind.
2. I had to leave my hometown… For 32 years (I moved to Chattanooga when I was 5) I’ve called Chattanooga, TN home and it’s an amazing city that has all of my best memories in it. And 95% of my special spots!
Those two things had a much bigger impact on me than I ever imagined. I lost part of me in making one of my lifelong dreams come true.
That happens when you go after bigger and better things!
Now add in a horrible heartbreak and a catastrophic event I can’t even talk about publicly and you have the recipe for a massive “funk“.
As I said though things are getting better…
Why?
Because I’m learning to get my “mojo” from other people and things.
I lost my mom 3 years ago and she was literally my backbone. She was my BIGGEST source of “mojo“.
Then I divorced one of the most amazing men in this world. Yes he has his faults, BUT when I met him at 23 I was still such a child. The man basically raised me and turned me into an adult. Well as much of an adult as he could. He was another HUGE source of “mojo“.
In that divorce I also lost 4 step-children that I helped raised for almost 13 years. Yep… There goes some more “mojo“.
My son decided that he wanted to live with his father full time instead of me. Talk about heart breaking. He’s got an amazing dad and that’s the only reason I allowed it, but it was devastating. He doesn’t know that because I’m trying to teach him to follow his dreams and what makes him happy. But… There went another HUGE source of my “mojo“.
Now throw in the move and leaving my best friend and hometown behind you can kind of see I’ve been sucked dry.
Literally everything I’ve known just slipped through my fingers. A lot of it is my fault, but at the end of the day I’ve suffered huge losses.
Add in the last 6 months of craziness and my “mojo well” has run dry.
I’ve always gotten my “mojo” from people and special places. I’ve been warned about not getting it from people, but it’s in my makeup to do so. Maybe it’s a character fault, but it works for me when I’m getting it from people so I’m accepting the fact that I have to get it from them.
With so few people in my life now I didn’t know what to do… So I started thinking about who else was in my life when I’ve had the MOST “mojo” going. All the people I’ve listed above were there, but guess who else was.
YOU!
At my best I’ve always given half of myself to my customers, fans, and followers…
That reminder has catapulted me back to where my head needs to be. It’s you guys who give me my “mojo“.
How?
By buying my stuff? Of course, but that’s like .005% of it. 🙂
The ways I get “mojo” from you guys is when…
You comment on my Facebook stuff/ blog…
You give me feedback on the information I create for you…
You consume what I teach you and use it to be successful…
You are actively go after your dreams…
You consider me a source of YOUR “mojo“…
Even when you are giving me “constructive criticism“…
I could go on and on here, but today I wanted to open up a little to you and let you know how much I appreciate you for all the “mojo“.
Keep doing what you’re doing… Keep interacting with me… Keep letting me know what you think… Keep letting me know how I can help you…
Just keep sending all of that “mojo” so I can continue being the best I can be for you!
Alright that’s enough “sappy” stuff for one day. And definitely enough “mojo” talk. 🙂 Time to get back into action mode with all of this “mojo” I’m getting. 🙂
I hope you’ve found something in this post you can identify with and I hope if you’re lacking in the “mojo” department that you find your new source of it too!
Liz
No problem… Will always be here keep doing what you do for the people , and you will be rewarded, and you deserve it! Never give up fill fill your dreams as always.
Have to say Liz you a very brave lady, sharing what’s going on in your life is never easy. I have the upmost respect for you and I’ve stated before you have more talent than you realise and will change everything around.
Take care
Brett
Hi Liz,
There’s lots of interesting internet marketing products out there, but few internet marketers who are trusted and convey info well. You’re at the top of the list. And you’re a major mojo-provider too!
You’ve gone through so many life changes in three years. Be sure to protect your health. Stress lurks, then can suddenly lunge.
Sending mojo,
Mary
Hey Liz,
Your right most if not all can relate.
The YOU as you put it is still there.
I am a Semi PRO Defense head coach
I had never thought of having what it takes to be a coach. However I knew the game and how I played when I was younger (Back to the Basis)
That’s what I thought was best for the young men on defense and that’s where we started at the ROOTS of the game. Long story short I stepped up to help my sons team to not allow 8-10 touch downs a game and with two weeks we cut the TDS TO 4-6 two weeks after that the defense might allow 1. Two tops
So going on a trip HOME might just be what you need
My prayers are with you
Hi Liz,
God bless your heart! You’ve kinda been raked over the coals, as the saying goes in my neck of the woods.
I can to some extent empathize with you. I grew up in a dysfunctional home with a father who was an alcoholic who became violent when he was intoxicated. He went to jail for a few days for physically abusing my mother. When I was a young teenager I ran away from home, but was only gone for a few weeks before they found me and sent me to live with my uncle and his wife for about a year.
However, my parents divorced and I returned home to live with my mother. After that things improved dramatically and for the most part the rest of my life was really good except for about the past 16 years or so.
I married my high school sweetheart when we were both only eighteen years old. She is the daughter of a Baptist minister. We were blessed with two wonderful daughters who later married two wonderful men and both had two sons each. So we have four grandsons and no granddaughters.
We were married for 53 mostly wonderful years! However, at the age of 58 my wife was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease in the year 2000. I retired three years early to take care of her so she wouldn’t have to be institutionalized. I took care of her for the next fourteen years and the disease finally took her life in January of 2014. Thankfully she died in our home and I never had to place her in a nursing home. Losing her was by far the most difficult thing I have ever experienced.
However, I enjoy being with my daughters and their families very much. And my faith teaches me that I will one day see Judy again and we’ll be together forever where there will be no pain or sickness or death. This is a great source of comfort for me! Without this hope life would be most miserable for me.
As you stated above, while money is a necessary instrument for living, what matters most to us is others – loved ones, friends, and yes even just casual acquaintances. I’m sure you agree with the philosophical concept that our lives are to one degree or another influenced by all those we’ve met and all the experiences we’ve had – the “no man is an island” precept.
Liz, you may remember we spoke on the phone for about an hour a few years ago.
It may sound arrogant to some, but according to my faith, I know I’m going to heaven some day, not because I deserve to, but because Jesus bought my ticket for me. That’s as preachy as I’m going to get here, but if you’re interested, I have a blog and the first article on it I titled “How Good Must We Be To Go To Heaven?” Here is the URL: http://www.MyChristianConcepts.com.
Keep doing the incredible work that you do so well! You are a great blessing to multitudes!
Your friend,
Tom
Hello Liz,your old Boh (burnt out hippie)mate from down under Queensland Australia here and I wish you well and I am sure all your past and future followers will pass on to you all the mojo you will ever need.
And from me personally ,I just want to say that you just helped me to keep the dream alive.
Thank you for all the super advice given by you over the years.
Best Of luck,cheers.
Wisdom is the right use of knowledge. To know is not to be wise. Many men know a great deal, and are all the greater fools for it. There is no fool so great a fool as a knowing fool. But to know how to use knowledge is to have wisdom. Charles Spurgeon
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Hi Liz,
Thank you for your openness; I wish you strength to get back to where I know you can be, to where you had so impressed me when I first listened to your videos.
Your enthusiasm, your love for the business and your genuine desire to help us, your fellow marketers, was obvious. I was convinced that I had encountered a true mentor.
Having you without your “mojo” would be a great loss for all of us. Therefore, if being part of your world will help, count me in. I am certain that everyone who have used your products or service will want to be counted in also. We all will benefit to have you in top shape, full of “mojo”.
Regards,
Harry Poisson.
Moving can be a big leap into the unknown I moved from Washington State to Texas 2 years ago, left friends I had accumulated for 70 years behind as well as a lot of “stuff”. It has been difficult but I am doing new things and meeting new people and enjoying new and interesting experiences I would have never of had otherwise. You are right to seek and deepen your relationship with your online friends and clients, as they went where you went as have mine and yes I cherish all of them.
Liz, Have followed you for years because I saw you as a real person not just a marketer. The openness of your blog comes thru as a deep connection with us your readers, buyers and friends or”mojo”. Thanks for sharing of your life experience and know that all things happen for a reason that may not be obvious at the time and will only reveal itself at the right moment.
Going forward you have been forced to become stronger and wiser. Now you can reach for the stars and feel they are not so far away as we think they are. You will flourish and grow. You have done and accomplished more than some that are stuck in the same situation that has caused their life to be unfulfilled and don’t have a way to get out of it. God Bless
You guys are absolutely amazing! I appreciate the support and look so forward to helping you guys!
Hi Liz,
Sorry to hear about your situation and about the “not so fun things” you have and are going through. I’m happy to hear you are picking up and not letting it break you. Three years ago we, meaning my family, lost our home, my Father-in-law, my Mother-in-law and her sister, My Brother-in-law, and my Grandfather. All lost within a 5 month period. I can say it was the worst year of my life. But today we are doing better and we all got through it. We found our strength in each other, our family, and our friends. Whatever works for you you need to stick with that. If it is your followers, then we will encourage and cheer you on as you go through tough times. Hang in there and God bless!
Hi Liz,
I also have been following you for quite a while because, like Frank said above: “because I saw you as a real person not just a marketer”
I understand only toooo well how life can throw you a curve ball, or 2 😉
Keep your chin up. You’ll get there!!
Hi Liz,
I always saw you as a wisp of smoke sailing high above me suspended on a hot air balloon. It seams that balloon as burst and there are more things left unsaid between you and Jamie and I can’t truthfully say I didn’t see it coming.
Your finding your connection with those that have known you and your work for years are just what the Doctor ordered.
We learn from our lessons and don’t look back at ourself in the mirror but instead look forward as through a magnifying glass and see the future ahead of you.
Has your daughter graduated from college yet and what is she doing?
You are my teacher and even though I was told by my mother that my grade school teacher put on my report card that I “took criticism badly” I love your heart and yes your cigarette voice. Please get back to basics and worry about helping us less fortunate and less about getting rich just to have someone take it all away again.
Thanks for all your hard work helping me with my fledging IM business.
Thanks Donald! You’ve been with me for years and I truly enjoy you! Thank you for your words! 🙂